What kind of a friend are you?

Friends, don’t we all have them? You’re probably thinking to yourself, ” here we go again, a friendship post.” Well yes, you are CORRECT! However, when was the last time you really paid attention to the people you surround yourself with?

Remember when you were younger and your parents at some point said to you, “Show me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you really are?”

“Ayyyyy mom, not even close, I’m nothing like Mary. You have nothing to worry about.” Lies, they are all lies. At some point we feel judged, left out, peer pressured by those we see as friends. But is that really normal? No. No one should ever make you feel like you are useless. We often meet people in our lives who are there to make a difference, and then there are those who we meet by accident.

However, don’t ever let a shitty person make you feel like you’re not worth it, or capable of meeting your goals.

We often find negative people that want to take advantage of us, that want to see us fail, that enjoy every minute of our sadness. But how often do we really meet the right person in our life? And let me just point out to you, this isn’t a “oh my soulmate is my best friend,” no mija.

This post is to simply ask yourself if you are indeed surrounded by the right group of people in your current life. We have all meet different types of friends, and although we might not always agree with the way they are, we still love them for who they are.

Don’t dwell on the past, but rather live the moment with the people that love you the most.

The Friend Who Can Read You Like A Book

  • This is towards the friend that knows everything about you, to include your body language and let alone your attitude. He/She often reads your mind, and knows exactly what to say. Are you that transparent that they know everything you’re thinking and feeling? (may be a little scary but damn, at least someone can read your moody ways).
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The Sarcastic Friend

  • Does she ever shut up? No, but really though? Many people and I mean many people do not understand her humor! She can be funny, but many don’t understand her humor, so they automatically think your friend is mocking someone else. Eyes roll everywhere and you of all people sometimes can’t tell if they are being serious or simply playing around. If this sounds like you, well congratulations, you are THE SARCASTIC FRIEND…haha..NO!
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The Smart Friend

  • Oh boy, here we go. The smarty pants out of the bunch. The straight A’s student who can help you in everything, and I mean everything. You can’t even argue with her because she is so smart and apparently KNOWS IT ALL. Yeah, super annoying at times but you may be thankful when you have a sturdy friend in your life. You often think to yourself, why ask google when you have Mary around.
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The Loyal Friend

  • The only person that sticks with you through thick and thin. Regardless of your differences and arguments, she’s the only that never leaves your side. When treated poorly, they often think they are either taken advantage of, they’re too stupid, or they’re just too loyal. Too loyal to put up with people’s shit. But you love that about them. Because they are the only ones to put up with your shit. The only person that never turns their back on you. She may be gone for a while, but comes back to you to keep putting up with your shit. Thanks friend!
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The Friend Who Is Just Like You

  • ” You were thinking it,” “I know but you said it.” Typical two peas in a pod. The Ying to your Yang. Like Mary-Kate and Ashley. You guys are just the same person, think the same, have so many similarities that you often think, “wait a minute, are you sure we are not related?” This is a one of a kind friend who is seriously just like you. She’s the sister from another mister! This is the type of a friend everyone needs. Careful though, you may often bump heads.
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The Friend Who Would Do Anything For You

  • It’s not stupidity. They would just drop everything they are doing to help you out. This person values your friendship more than everyone else. She is committed to your friendship and never expects anything in return. They often think people take their kindness for weakness but refuse to believe that is the case. This friend is never too busy or too far to help you when you’re stuck in a situation.
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The Quiet Friend

  • Everyone has this type of friend. She’s quiet, non-confrontational, very reserved, super quiet, and most of all shy. She can only be herself around you when she genuinely appreciates your company. Even though your mom always says to watch out for the quiet ones, chances are you might end up with at least one quite friend. Never really socializes but is clearly listening to everything that’s being said around her.
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The Motivating Friend

  • You can do it, I believe in you! Don’t we all have that one friend that often believe in us when we doubt ourselves? That friend that is constantly showing us motivation, and is usually positive about every situation. That friend tends to be successful and wants you to succeed as well.
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The Blunt Friend

  • #sorrynotsorry sound familiar? The one that doesn’t give a shit about anyone or anything. LITERALLY! Does not think before she speaks, and although it can be annoying for some, you’ve adapt to it throughout your friendship. This is the friend that will talk about all your embarrassing moments you’ve spent together. The person that has no filter whatsoever. She’s great at giving you advice and does not hold her opinions back. Don’t take her bluntness the wrong way, that’s just the way she is.
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The Friend Who is Friends with Everyone

  • Ms. Popular, Ms. I’m the Shit, Ms. Every one thinks I’m the shit, Ms. My Shit don’t stink. Everyone is drawn to her, everyone loves her, she’s just your “to go to girl.” The friend everyone can turn too because she is neutral and the friend your acquaintances know. She’s loyal to her circle and you can’t go anywhere without running into someone she may know.
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The CRAZY Friend

  • This is the friend that gives 0 FUCKS! The friend who is always down to do just about anything, anywhere, anytime. We often need a little craziness in our lives to balance us out. However, she may be too much at times. That bubbly friend who is always in a “let’s fuck shit up” mood is there for you to make some pretty wild memories together. She often makes decisions based on intuition versus feelings, and lives by the phrase, “YOLO” which means You Only Live Once.
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The Stubborn Friend

  • The friend that no matter WHAT YOU SAY she will do whatever she wants! She will not listen to what you have to say, although she will hear you out. She is not open to other people’s ideas or comments because she knows what is right and wrong. She doesn’t like when others don’t agree with her and will argue for hours until she gets her point across and prove to others she is right.
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The Life of the Party

  • She’s the life of the party, the little ray of sunshine that everyone just loves to be around with. That friend doesn’t care what others have to say because she’s too busy living her life. She doesn’t waste her time on negative nancy’s because she’s too busy livin la vida loca. She makes risky decisions because she knows life is nothing but a big damn party. She’s honest with you and you’ll notice she’s the life of your friendship too.
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The Attention Seeker

  • By far, the FAVORITE friend. The one that is always crying for attention. “Oh why me? why is John always trying to hook up with me? I push him away but yet he keeps coming back for more. Why me?” Although we get annoyed at them because they’re constantly making it about them and want people to feel sorry for them, we deep down love them. She will do anything to get noticed, she will say anything to be remembered. She’s not the best listener because she constantly wants to be the center of attention. They are good friends but remember that they will make your conversation about them (don’t say I didn’t tell you so).
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Military Spouse Stories

Leaving Yuma with Love

Gibson Family 2018

Oh, the joys of being a military wife. One day you’re hanging out with your girlfriend when you suddenly get a call. It’s not just a call; it’s THE call. The call you’ve been patiently waiting for, the reason you’ll be stressing out for the next (drumroll) 3 months. Just when you thought you had your life put together, your home, even your job. After all these years, your kids are finally used to their school, they finally have friends in the neighborhood, and well you, you’ve finally made friends. Oh, but it’s not a seasonal friend, it’s family: a group of people you consider family that gets together on holidays and other special occasions. But when your phone rings and your husband gives you the news, it changes everything. For some, it’s a massive weight off our shoulders to finally know where you’ll be moving next. For others, it’s bittersweet. You see, being an adult is sometimes being like a kid. You find your comfort zone, and that makes you put together for the next couple of years. But one thing’s for sure, once you click with certain people, you never want to let go. You have your inner circle, the people you trust, the people who have been there when you’ve hit rock bottom — the people that know your darkest secrets, but also the people that are there to lift you when no one else understands. Your regular friends don’t quite follow you as your military friends do, which brings us back to moving away from the inner circle you’ve loved for the past three years.
I recently came across a spouse that recently found out she is PCSing to North Carolina where her husband Beau Gibson will be stationed on Camp Lejeune. Just by sitting down and hearing her story about her upcoming move, made me realize that not only does this affect our families. But as a military spouse, it affects us as well. I messaged Paige Gibson and asked her to meet with me to further discuss her experience from her move from Oceanside, California. To Yuma, Arizona.

MkAnahy: Paige, what was your first thought when you moved to Yuma, Arizona?

Paige: My first thought after finding out we were moving to Yuma, was a bit interesting. I had never heard of the place let alone knew it existed. When my family and I drove into this desert place in the middle of nowhere, I thought “holy crap, this is where I’m going to be living for the next three years? Really? The lettuce fields are cool to look at, but I’m nervous to be here.” As you can tell, I didn’t love it. I loved the house we first moved into, which was in the Foothills, approximately 15 minutes from base. We explored the place and found Yuma’s shopping mall, The Palms, drove around downtown and got passes to the water park which was honestly the best thing we could have done for our family! I got spoiled in Oceanside before moving to Yuma, so it took a few months to adjust to all the surroundings. I then realized my daughter loved her school and her friends and wanted to make it a positive move for her and eventually began to adjust to the area little by little. It’s a small place and easy to get around and to meet my friends here helped me see the good in Yuma.

Mk Anahy: When you got to Yuma, did you make friends right away? And if so, do you still talk to them?

Paige: Yes, well it took two months. My husband’s friend that he went to Intel school with was also PCSing to Yuma but didn’t get here until a month and a half after us. My husband said that his wife and I would get along well and turns out we did! She was my first friend here and still is to this day! I met a lot of couples after hosting BBQ’s and made friends with many cool people. People that turned into my best of friends! I hope they get stationed by us again!!

Mk Anahy: What were some of the challenges you faced while being stationed in Yuma? Was your husband gone all the time? If so did you look for resources to keep you busy? Did you work while being in Yuma? Did your husband’s workplace make sure to include your family in events and up to date with any training your husband had to attend?

Paige: Thinking back, some challenges I had in Yuma, was having to take care of my baby that was only a month old. I was fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with him while I’ve been here. A challenge was having to move on base after living off base for quite some time because the owner of the house we were renting from decided to put his home on the market. I’m so glad it happened because I was now closer to my friends, but I also feel safer living on base. It wasn’t the same for my daughter; it was challenging for her to switch schools. I contacted the school liaison on base, and she helped me narrow down the best school for my daughter to attend. When we moved to Yuma, I remembered the school liaison was a resource provided for the military families. My husband was gone during our first summer in Yuma with training in 29 Palms. Although I knew there were resources out there, I reached out to my friends for help. My husband’s shop was very communicative with the families. We hardly received any information regarding our husband’s training dates or any special events for the families. That was one thing I enjoyed from my husband’s old shop in Oceanside. They took care of the families and provided them with different resources.

Mk Anahy: What is the best thing that happened to you or your family while being stationed here? Why type of bond did you make with your inner circle that your regular friends back home will never understand?

Paige: The best thing that has happened here was my friends! My daughter (who is 10) made some great friends, and so did my husband, son and me. We have a special bond because we share somewhat the same experiences that most of my friends from back home don’t understand. It’s essential to have at least one loyal military spouse to talk throughout all your troubles with the military lifestyle. Being a military spouse is challenging but making friends have someone to talk to, or to have someone to have a few drinks with while watching movies keeps you sane. It also creates some memorable moments with the people you love the most!! Although we faced many challenges, we also learned to cherish the good memories every day and be grateful for the people you meet in your life.